Self Esteem – Weekly Wellness Series – July 25, 2018
In the vast terrain of self-esteem building, there are many topics to explore. This week we are focusing on Victim Thinking.
Victim thinking is when you believe you are at the effect of something. Something is holding a power over you. You view only limited options and feel trapped.
In order to stop thinking like a victim, you first need to start embracing responsibility for yourself.
Practice radical responsibility by understanding you are responsible for everything in your life. If you are with an abusive partner, you do not blame them for being abusive to you, it is your responsibility to take action toward a resolution.
You can play the blame game and remain stagnant in your situation. Or you can make a choice. What can you do today, right now, to improve your situation?
If you are in a state of fear, it is OK. It’s normal and natural. We all experience fear. If you need to take a brave step, remember that it is just a step. You take one step today, and then take another step tomorrow.
Let’s practice. Commit this week to take one brave action step each day until next Wednesday. You only need to be brave for one minute, two minutes; however long it takes for this step you’ve chosen. If it’s a tough conservation, that should only be a few minutes. If it’s a trip to the gym, that should be the 5 minutes it takes to put on your gym clothes and start your car. Take that first step. You only need to be brave for those first few minutes and then you are done. Tomorrow, we take another step.
You don’t have to brave 24 hours a day
After taking your brave step today, go ahead and celebrate yourself with some self-soothing activity. Take 5 minutes or longer, here are some suggestions:
A rich delicious forward fold or child’s pose
Read an article/story on your favorite subject
Physical Activity (dance, skip, etc.)
Take an Aromatherapy Bath
Self-care (do your nails, salt scrub for your legs, deep condition your hair)
A cup of herbal tea
Just make sure your self soothe isn’t with alcohol, drugs, shopping or sugar!