#BeingPresent and what it means, and what if your #present moment sucks? #livinginthenow #presentmoment

Wellness Wednesday Weekly Series August 1, 2018

Being present just means being all in and connecting with the reality of the moment that you are in. In this current moment, the past is gone and the future hasn’t occurred. All you have is this moment. Say to yourself, “I am here now, this is my moment.” Allow all of the filters you see through dissolve. See yourself as this human being experiencing life, you are an expression of existence manifesting in this moment. Look around you, breathe the air, notice the scents and smells. Using your vision, notice the texture of things, study the objects around you, the living beings and creatures around you. We are consciousness expressed in this living form. Touch something. Utilize all of your senses. You are not a victim to this world, you are this world. You are an expression of the creator, of the creation of all things. You are worthy of life, of happiness and joy.

When you connect with what you are doing and when you are all in, blocks dissolve, anxiety disappears and wonderment fills your heart.

Activate all 5 senses

You can do one sense at a time, or just focus on one, two, or your choice.

I tell myself time is an illusion. I am here, it is now, and I embrace everything in this moment.

What you can do if your present moment sucks:

(Examples: you’re at a mind-numbing job, you are under the weather, you are upset, you are hurt…)

Learn and practice the art of patience. This too shall pass.

Have the wisdom to know that you have to make a change and start planning and taking steps.

Embrace that everything is temporary.

Embrace that there is wisdom to be gained, lessons to be learned, in all moments in life, even the sucky ones.

Some moments seem meaningless, for example, “what’s the point of having to go through pain, boredom, sickness, etc.” As humans we are not immune to playing the waiting game, getting frustrated, being bored, being under the weather, etc. Sometimes we just have to power through and try to make the best of it. My Bluetooth is my best friend. If I am stuck somewhere waiting, I pop it on, and stream satellite radio, or an audiobook or YouTube videos. Or I whip out my journal or play a game on my tablet. Some moments are more complex than that, and may take a little more creativity, but you get the idea. The main point is that nothing lasts forever. And just imagine the wonderful relief and feeling of gratitude when the sucky moments finally pass. If you are in an unbearable place, use what you can to relieve your pain, try self-soothing techniques. Remember to acknowledge what you are feeling, don’t resist and push away your feelings. Comfort yourself like you would a small child. Many times in life, we have to push through discomfort to get to comfort.

 

I believe in the scales.

 

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Someone told me once, when I was feeling incredibly down, that as low I am now, I will be equally as high in the future. Life balances out, so if you are very low, expect to be very high soon.

I liked that. I kept that vision with me as I go through hard times. And my life has had up and downs.

I have perfected the art of the Bounce Back. This is why I am Resilient.

Your present moment awareness can be transitioned into a meditation practice.

Try this: Forget about chants, yoga, meditation cushions, guided meditations, and anything that you may have perceived about meditation.

Think of meditation as you just getting used to yourself and your mind. Just sit or walk with yourself and notice everything about you. Notice your thoughts and feelings. All meditation is learning about yourself and how you operate consciously. You get to know your frequent thoughts. You get to know your knee jerk reactions. You are witness to your filters and perceptions. You observe yourself, like a scientist observes things under a microscope. After observing yourself many times, you are no longer shocked by strange thoughts that come through your mind. You are no longer a prisoner to recurring negative chatter. You start to gain control over thoughts and you learn to navigate the vast sea of consciousness. It just takes time and commitment to be a witness to your existence and a desire to be more in touch with your mind and body. It’s choosing awareness. Awareness brings gratitude, and gratitude brings happiness. So just sit with yourself, in quiet. And observe.

So, what are you going to do with this moment, right now?

Wellness Wednesdays – Self-Esteem Nourishment

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Self Esteem – Weekly Wellness Series – July 25, 2018

In the vast terrain of self-esteem building, there are many topics to explore. This week we are focusing on Victim Thinking.

Victim thinking is when you believe you are at the effect of something. Something is holding a power over you. You view only limited options and feel trapped.

In order to stop thinking like a victim, you first need to start embracing responsibility for yourself.

Practice radical responsibility by understanding you are responsible for everything in your life. If you are with an abusive partner, you do not blame them for being abusive to you, it is your responsibility to take action toward a resolution.

You can play the blame game and remain stagnant in your situation. Or you can make a choice. What can you do today, right now, to improve your situation?

If you are in a state of fear, it is OK. It’s normal and natural. We all experience fear. If you need to take a brave step, remember that it is just a step. You take one step today, and then take another step tomorrow.

Let’s practice. Commit this week to take one brave action step each day until next Wednesday. You only need to be brave for one minute, two minutes; however long it takes for this step you’ve chosen. If it’s a tough conservation, that should only be a few minutes. If it’s a trip to the gym, that should be the 5 minutes it takes to put on your gym clothes and start your car. Take that first step. You only need to be brave for those first few minutes and then you are done. Tomorrow, we take another step.

You don’t have to brave 24 hours a day

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After taking your brave step today, go ahead and celebrate yourself with some self-soothing activity. Take 5 minutes or longer, here are some suggestions:

A rich delicious forward fold or child’s pose

Read an article/story on your favorite subject

Journal

Physical Activity (dance, skip, etc.)

Meditate

Take an Aromatherapy Bath

Self-massage

Self-care  (do your nails, salt scrub for your legs, deep condition your hair)

A cup of herbal tea

Just make sure your self soothe isn’t with alcohol, drugs, shopping or sugar!

 

#NewAge – Not for Me. #ActionOrientedGoals – Much Better

New age bullshit can really screw up the mind. Talk about the constant need and the seeking of knowledge and fulfillment that’s a never-ending cycle of want want want. About this law of attraction thing, well you can’t always get what you want all of the time, life doesn’t work like that. There’s nothing wrong with having a positive attitude and getting into creative visualization, but if you’re worried about how your mind is thinking all the time it can be an added layer of stress. Focusing on doing things that take you out of your mind is what helps me lead a happier life. Continually thinking about your mind and trying to lead all of your thoughts towards a certain way is too much mind maintenance and can drive you up a wall.

If I do the activities that keep me present and shut off the mind, I’m a much happier person and I am not thinking all the time.

The times that I do have quietness and solitude where I’m left to a thinking mind I choose to observe it and see what’s going on in there. There might be issues that I need to focus on. I spent years studying and practicing meditation and now I see meditation as just an observation of the mind. I’m not taking anything in there with me, I’m not taking a chant in, I’m not taking a word in, or an idea, I’m just watching and listening to what’s going on in my mind. An inexperienced meditator might experience fear and terror going into the mind…when things get weird, I get out! Take what you see in there with a grain of salt. We are like receivers, like a TV antenna. Our mind collects and stores all sorts of things, from TV images to things your drunk friend said, whatever. When you jump into a mind, weird stuff is in there, so try not to get too freaked out. I pay attention to the reoccurring thoughts, and then I journal on them out to see why they keep coming up. They may need some attention. That’s it. Nothing crazy, nothing mystical. Now you can have mystical experiences. But they are TEMPORARY. You may or may not have them again. So, I choose not to chase them. Or claim they are fact and real. It’s just a mind trip.

I respect the Buddhist thought of not getting attached to things and from that, this is where I am able to observe the mind with its thoughts and ideas and not get all caught up with it.

However, I’m about to touch on the Middle Road which means I also welcome passion and I am proud to say I am attached to my loved ones and pets.

I can take non-attachment to a certain level, but cannot apply it to all aspects of my life.

I’m so over yoga, but I am all about stretching and keeping my muscles active and strong. And I don’t want to study any deities I’m just sticking to one main God. I do love the story of Jesus and I don’t know how historically true it is but I don’t care because it’s what I grew up with and it’s what I know and I’m okay with that. I believe everyone should have their own belief systems and I wouldn’t want to change anybody’s. Sometimes when you’re all caught up in that new age stuff you try to attach meaning to minutiae. Like…the large crumb of my coffee cake fell on the sidewalk, because the “Universe” is telling me to feed the less fortunate by giving a portion of my meals to the hungry creatures of the world. Or whatever. I know this way of thinking because I lived it. I have to tell you that most of the time it’s a mind game.

A new-ager can coach you into a temporary feeling of magical thinking. A new-ager can also coach you into thinking they have all of the answers for you.

And you keep seeking, and you keep paying. And your bliss is temporary until you need your new age fix. This is like believing all what a psychic tells you. I must say though I have surprised myself with my own psychic ability, I believe we all have a touch of it. But I do not know everything all of the time. I’ll get bits of pieces of “psychic crumbs” and sometimes they are right on, and others, not so much.

In case you’re wondering about my psychic experiences, I’ll give you one. I was able to psychically know the name of a young girl that passed away on the property next door to my new home. The name kept coming to me all day. I also psychically “knew” other information that was completely validated by others. But I CANNOT claim to be psychic all of the time. No way. I chalk most of this up to intuition. And I encourage others to use and develop their own intuition as well.

I steer way clear of ever telling anyone what is going to happen in their future.

I don’t coach people based on New Age Thought. I coach people into Action. You have to be careful out there, in the realm of self-help. Some of these people get so full of themselves and believe they know it all, and rely and “spirit guides” and unstudied and untested concepts.

Be careful out there. And when you are ready to make strides toward your goals, hit me up and we will use some good old-fashioned motivation, and use tried and true methods to reach your goals and beyond.

I don’t give advice in my coaching sessions, but I do in my blog. Here’s my advice: Be an authority on yourself. Don’t blindly follow others with the promises of cures or bliss.

News flash: your answers come from you, no one else.

God Bless

#God is my #LifeCoach

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I’d like to share a mantra with you that was shared to me by a fellow life coach.

“I am beautiful, created by God and perfect in his eyes.”

Do you practice Mantras? I suggest only practicing mantras that invoke a feeling in you. If you don’t resonate with the words you are repeating, don’t choose it!

From Wiki:  The Sanskrit word mantra- consists of the root man- “to think”  and the suffix -tra, designating tools or r instruments, hence a literal translation would be “instrument of thought

The Chinese translation is zhenyan 眞言, 真言, literally “true words”

I love that, “TRUE WORDS”

I had a recent experience where I was personally life coached by God. Meaning through a trial and tribulation, I see that these challenges were given to me in order to strengthen me. God gives you what you can handle so he can build you up. Can you recognize when the grand designer has chosen you and trained you to become a stronger person? You are that important. You do matter. Your challenges are your greatest opportunities for improvement. Do you see areas in your life where there is a grand design? Did something happen to you that you thought was “bad” and then it turned out that it was for your greater good and made you stronger and more resilient?

How have challenging experiences in your life caused you to grow and become your best you?

The mantras that we choose for ourselves help reinforce what we want and what we believe ourselves to be. Choose a statement that makes your soul sing. I suggest saying your mantra 30 times in a mirror. If you need help coming up with one, email me. 🙂

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