Wellness Wednesdays – Self-Esteem Nourishment

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Self Esteem – Weekly Wellness Series – July 25, 2018

In the vast terrain of self-esteem building, there are many topics to explore. This week we are focusing on Victim Thinking.

Victim thinking is when you believe you are at the effect of something. Something is holding a power over you. You view only limited options and feel trapped.

In order to stop thinking like a victim, you first need to start embracing responsibility for yourself.

Practice radical responsibility by understanding you are responsible for everything in your life. If you are with an abusive partner, you do not blame them for being abusive to you, it is your responsibility to take action toward a resolution.

You can play the blame game and remain stagnant in your situation. Or you can make a choice. What can you do today, right now, to improve your situation?

If you are in a state of fear, it is OK. It’s normal and natural. We all experience fear. If you need to take a brave step, remember that it is just a step. You take one step today, and then take another step tomorrow.

Let’s practice. Commit this week to take one brave action step each day until next Wednesday. You only need to be brave for one minute, two minutes; however long it takes for this step you’ve chosen. If it’s a tough conservation, that should only be a few minutes. If it’s a trip to the gym, that should be the 5 minutes it takes to put on your gym clothes and start your car. Take that first step. You only need to be brave for those first few minutes and then you are done. Tomorrow, we take another step.

You don’t have to brave 24 hours a day

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After taking your brave step today, go ahead and celebrate yourself with some self-soothing activity. Take 5 minutes or longer, here are some suggestions:

A rich delicious forward fold or child’s pose

Read an article/story on your favorite subject

Journal

Physical Activity (dance, skip, etc.)

Meditate

Take an Aromatherapy Bath

Self-massage

Self-care  (do your nails, salt scrub for your legs, deep condition your hair)

A cup of herbal tea

Just make sure your self soothe isn’t with alcohol, drugs, shopping or sugar!

 

#LifeCoaches kicking ass 24 hours a day. #spiritual #guru #wiseman #wisewoman #humanfirst #spiritualbliss is #temporary

I recently read on Reddit someone asking how a very wise or “spiritual” person could make mistakes or be taken by an addiction. Reading this got my inner voice buzzing and I could not wait to speak on this topic.

I admire people who show their humanness. I played the perfection game for many years, and all perfectionism does is paralyze you into inaction, because you are so afraid to proceed and make a mistake, that you end up not taking any action, or an action that is “safest”.

I praise and I’m proud of the people who are happy with themselves exactly the way they are and show up exactly as themselves. I am not impressed by the people who try to impress others or obtain many degrees, certificates or labels. I’m not knocking education or achievement, but what I am doing is promoting showing up as yourself, not hiding under a label. I want a person to show up as a human with flaws.

When you measure your worth or value by either a societal standard or by the opinions of others you’re cheating yourself. Self-esteem isn’t the measure of outside approval. You measure your own personal success and your own happiness. You choose your goals based on your values and you decide how to measure it.

Wise people still make “mistakes”. (Mistakes are actually opportunities, which is a whole other topic!) Wise people are subject to the same suffering and life situations that we are all subject to, no one is exempt from being human.

There is no such thing as perpetual spiritual bliss. I don’t know if anyone told you but happiness isn’t a permanent feeling, it is just like anger or sadness, they are temporary, they come and go. There are several moments during the day where I’m not feeling particularly anything but I could say I have a general contentedness, that is until something gets me mad. 😊

To say a life coach, a spiritual guru or a wise man (or wise woman) no longer experience bad feelings or makes mistakes is ridiculous. A life coach encourages you to be fully human and express your feelings without any hesitation but then we also call on you towards action, to take a step towards the place that you want to be and to learn about yourself in the process. We show you how to value yourself and to appreciate your own worth in this world. It’s not about pushing you up on the social ladder or getting approval from others. It’s about you being you and expressing and accepting yourself exactly as you are and improving anything that you would like to improve by creating action. Your satisfaction level in life can only be measured by you.

You will make mistakes. You can be wise and human at the same time. There is no wellness cure, and if people try to sell that to you, they are lying.

We do the best we can. When you have a life coach, you have someone in your corner, pointing out your gifts, seeing the true you, cheering you on, and helping you create goals that will bring you lifetime satisfaction.

We are all gifted. We all have a purpose. We are all wiser than we think we are. We are human first, and life can be challenging. But we as life coaches, we take those challenges, we chalk them up as training and we move on and kick some ass. And then we show you how to do it too.